The Elevation of Married Women

him: Did you hear that Nick Cannon is making all kinds of threats against Eminem now? 

me: No, I didn’t.  Why’s that?

him: Apparently Eminem said a bunch of crap about Mirah Careyon his new album. (Eminem “dated” Mirah years ago)

me: Wasn’t Eminem talking shit about Mariah Carey on his last album?

him: Yeah, he was!  That dude has really got something against her.

me: Well, maybe he just needs some new material?

him: Either way, you can’t talk about somebodies wife like that. (Now Mariah is married to Nick Cannon)

me: So, now that she’s married, she deserves to be defended and protected?  But not before she got married?

him: Well, maybe by her father or something…

me: You know, I think it’s bullshit that just because a woman gets married, she is suddenly entitled to a whole other level of respect.  Maybe that’s why little girls dream of getting married all their lives. Because society elevates women to some whole other level just because they stand up in front of some dude, repeat a few words, then sign a paper. 

I got married last month.  It’s something I never thought I’d do.  Well, when I was in my 20’s I sort of assumed I would just because that’s what people do.  But it’s not something I ever looked forward to. 

I waited until the last minute to tell my coworkers because I knew that I wouldn’t have the response they needed me to have when discussing the wedding plans.  I didn’t want to have big unreasonably fancy hair and a Cinderella-type wedding dress.  I didn’t want to walk down an aisle where people would be sitting on church pews starting at me wearing said big gaudy dress.  That I haven’t dreamt about my wedding day all my life apparently makes me strange.  I couldn’t have cared less who was there as long as he was there and we were both present when we committed our lives to each other (and on paper.) 

I’ve never understood girls dreaming of their wedding day all their lives.  But now that I’ve gone through it myself and seen how different (special, like a rock star) people treat brides-to-be and wives (apparently I’ll get more respect now than ever), I’m starting to understand it a little more.


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One Response to “The Elevation of Married Women”

  1. I never wanted a wedding, nor did I ever think about it as a child. When I became engaged, wedding planning was fun for about a week. Then I realized we could either buy a house or have a wedding. We bought the house and eloped shortly thereafter.

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